I donโt think so. But thatโs the topic of our chat today because, well โ for several reasons.
I feel shocked, raw, outraged, concerned, overwhelmed, hurt, afraid, alert, exhausted, fine, NOT okay. I feel like eating chocolate for breakfast, or not eating at all.
Mostly, at this point, I just feel completely SPENT.
Whatโs going on in the world right now is incredibly disturbing from so many angles it makes my head spin. I took a lot of time off work this week to listen, research, reach out, process, learn, think and process some more.
In times of crisis or conflict I tend to get very calm and very quiet, by all appearances at least. I recognize this as a learned behavior from fear/trauma in my childhood, but it has actually served me well as an adult: by turning it into an opportunity to observe and learn and process โ vs responding emotionally or even irrationally.
My daughter lashed out at me in an emotional rage a few months ago over that very thing actually, because we donโt grieve the same way, express anger in the same manner, or respond to stress the same.
She was furious at my lack of rage, or her perception of my feelings on the matter at least โ based on my calm reaction, which was not a true reflection of my feelings at all.
When it comes to my children, I have always stopped everything and dropped everything to give them my full attention in a moment of need โ my feelings aside. That being on top of how I respond to or process crisis and conflict in general.
I explained that to her later and she understood and apologized of course, and actually appreciated that I did stay calm and help her through the situation.
Hindsight is always more objective than viewing life through a lens blurred with emotions though, right?
Back to whatโs going on in the world right now, I have plenty of thoughts and feelings on it all, just like you do I imagine. I simply donโt feel the need to air it all publicly on the internet โ which Iโve been called out and criticized for repeatedly this week.
Thatโs okay. I get that emotions are running high.
The current social climate is TENSE.
Like my daughter, many people assume silence or calm or anything other than pure outrage is a stance in itself. People assume not sharing your feelings publicly means you donโt have any, or that your feelings are wrong.
People assume not taking a public stance or making a public statement means someone or some business is not taking action โ all of which are big assumptions.
Itโs human nature to assume that everyone thinks or feels or acts like you do โ or would/should respond the same way. But weโre all wired different. If I cry deeply but donโt publicly discuss that pain, it doesnโt make my tears any less salty. If I pray in private instead of public, it doesnโt make my prayer any less heard.
You may wonder what any of this has to do with peanut butter cookiesโฆ
Understandably! Iโll explain.
Would Peanut Butter Cookies Make Anything Better? ๐๐ฅ๐ช
1. My work is something I enjoy. Itโs one place I know I can make a difference. Itโs also where I turn to zone out and take my mind off things that are bothering me. After 23 years in business and a life of so many ups and downs, itโs my โconstantโ (a safe happy space) โ or has been.
2. Life has been HIGH STRESS for the last three months, with things escalating rapidly over the last week, and so many people have reached out to me about their struggles with emotional binge eating, or going totally off the rails in a heightened state of anxiety over it all.
3. In the worst possible timing, Perfect Keto released their newest product on Monday of this week โ and in my opinion, the best product theyโve cooked up to date: keto friendly peanut butter cookies.
Normally that would be something fun & exciting to discuss! Theyโre absolutely delicious, buttery soft and perfectly rich. They just dropped at a really bad time.
So here I sit, torn.
Do I tell you that Perfect Keto cookies were released this week, and what I LOVE about them? Is it in poor taste given the circumstances?
Do I have the energy to even sit down and write about cookies? Can I focus long enough to finish this before the sale ends tonight?
Iโm pushing myself through that but (obviously) it turned into so much more. I apologize. My mind is full, my heart is heavy, and itโs hard to stay focused on any one point โ to the point that Iโve all but given up on getting any real work done this week.
Something normal feels good.
Something normal feels wrong.
A lot of people crave something as NORMAL as sitting in a restaurant again after months of shutdowns. Thatโs sort of how I felt this morning after a good sleep (finally), following an emotionally exhausting week:
How good it would feel to sit down and blog โFridayโs Featured Productโ before I get started on my consulting work for the day. You know, something normal.
Of course now itโs well past afternoon already, and Iโve mostly been staring at a blank screen, or backspacing what I *do* write. ๐คฆโโ๏ธ Iโm torn between it being irrelevant in light of current events, or even feeling โwrongโ (in poor taste)โฆ
Iโm torn between that, and wondering if maybe YOU need a slice of normalcy too (?) โ to talk about something else, or read about something else, or even do something for yourself right now.
(I just cringed typing those ^ last few words. sadly. because self care IS important. YOU are important.)
Is it okay to need a mental break from it all?
(Yes, thatโs okay)
Unfortunately I didnโt accomplish that with this note, given itโs all I really talked about. ๐คฆโโ๏ธ๐คฆโโ๏ธ *sigh*
So letโs switch gearsโฆ
Emotional Eating, Binge Eating & Stress Eating
Speaking of craving something normal โฆ for me lately, thatโs been โpint nightโ โ a pint of ice cream with a good movie and a spoon.๐ฅ
Thatโs an OLD normal of course, from my former life, where I dealt with emotions and stress by eating (A LOT).
I finally realized that I could never FILL the void, and had to learn to FEEL the void โ to find new ways to actually deal with my feelings, and work off my stress and anxiety.
I also realized that no food EVER made me feel BETTER. Wouldnโt that be such an easy fix if it did?! But it only ever made me feel worse, physically AND emotionally.
Still, thereโs something comforting about that association for me, a rewind to a time in my life where things felt different. So after doing everything else to deal with the day (journaling, a brisk walk, a sunshine break, reaching out to check on a friend, etc)โฆ Iโm totally okay with enjoying ice cream and a movie. LOW CARB ice cream of course. Even if itโs just for self-care and personal enjoyment.
Nobody ever said you couldnโt or shouldnโt ENJOY certain foods, guilt free. You just have to get creative and find or create low carb alternatives, so they truly ARE guilt free.
Not just because youโre on a diet or want to lose weight, but because of how AWFUL it makes you FEEL to eat high carb or high sugar foods when youโve discovered the BLISS of being in ketosis. And how GREAT it makes you feel to stay on track with your goals!
Thatโs what Iโve been doing lately: reviewing things like low carb pizza and low carb ice cream, allowing myself to enjoy things like these new keto friendly peanut butter cookies for breakfast instead of eggs โ basically: extending myself a little food grace.
I also want to review and test these options or alternatives for other people too, that NEED a crutch sometimes. Because thatโs totally okay.
While I generally eat super simple and โwhole food cleanโ (like just eggs with butter & cheese, or just raw pecans, or just a ribeye, etc)โฆ Iโm not a total food snob.
Depending on where you are in your journey, and whether you ever had eating disorders or a bad relationship with food to overcome (or still to overcome), you may feel differently. Thatโs okay too.
I personally feel like you should do whatever it takes for YOU to FEEL YOUR BEST. period.
If that means using a crutch like low carb desserts or other โreplacement foodsโ to get you through a craving or a tough spell, and that makes you feel BETTER than an all out binge or going totally off the rails, then by all means โ do what it takes.
If you know that for YOU even a small indulgence thatโs still low carb or keto friendly (like sugar free dark chocolate) is a โgateway foodโ that does NOT work for you, then do what keeps YOU feeling best.
Iโm sort of somewhere in between myselfโฆ
Mostly food is fuel at this point, but I also love that there are plenty of options to enjoy now and then too.
It took me YEARS to get over using food as โrewardโ or โpunishmentโ or for โcomfortโ or to realize that those things never truly worked for me, and to be able to enjoy low carb pizza simply because it was good โ not because it โfelt like a cheat.โ
Ugh. Iโm rambling I think. Apologies โ againโฆ *sigh*
I believe my original point was: Would (low carb) peanut butter cookies make anything better? The answer is NO, not in the grand scheme of things, not at all.
But if they make YOU feel better, then please: DO NOT feel GUILTY for indulging in something that keeps you from spiraling down with the chaos right now.
Iโm struggling with that right now. ๐โโ๏ธ I donโt mind to admit it.
Mostly Iโm struggling with the self-talk, like โyou should be eating cleanโ or โare you eating that to comfort feelings you canโt deal with anymore today?โ etc.
This is NOT a place I want to return to in my health journey, but Iโm dealing with it.
And like I said, extending myself a little โfood graceโ for now โ while staying very low carb, which is a good balance while I get all this stress & anxiety worked out.
I do not even pretend to understand everything that is going on in the world right now, or even inside myself.
Iโm sitting with my feelings, continuing to take things in from as many viewpoints and angles as I can, and watching things unfold to gain a bigger picture and better understanding of it all. Thereโs a lot of chaos and emotion to sift through, a lot to consider, a lot to research and learn.
Thereโs also a lot of division, anger and dissension within certain keto communities that absolutely breaks my heartโฆ at a time when I feel we need to be coming together, standing strong together, more than ever. ๐
As for my work, itโs mostly okay, mostly still a โsafe spaceโ โ except for Instagram, which is a total s*i*s*o*m this week, and unfortunately something I need to use now and then during the course of my work with clients.
I also get the feeling that some people who follow my @lowcarbtraveler updates there appreciate the โsomething normal postsโ about meal ideas or low carb foods to mix up their mealsโฆ but I could be wrong. Itโs hard to know right now.
All I do know is that I want to keep doing good work.
Yes, even while weโre in the middle of a global crisis and eyeball-deep in social tension. Yes, even while I sort out right and wrong and โnext best stepsโ and do that work (privately). Yes, even while Iโm being called out and put down if I show up at all.
And so my next piece for you will be a simple, delicious and healthy low carb meal idea.
From there Iโll continue sharing recipes and food diaries and meals, and prepare to kick off the next group challenge for those that want to participate.
But for now, I should close this note, because I feel itโs pretty much going nowhere but around in circles, and Iโm only getting more emotional instead of doing something productive or useful.
Is it okay if I stick to simple topics for awhile, and send you some great meal ideas and recipes?
What would help you most right now?
A challenge, meal ideas, encouragement, motivation, new snack ideas, glucose/ketone tests on certain products, help getting back on track, easy recipesโฆ name it. Iโm here.
Best,
Lynn Terry
aka @LowCarbTraveler
p.s. Back to peanut butter cookies, I tried to get people to share their favorite keto cookie recipes with us earlier this week. No luck, but that post did turn into a great discussion about the new Perfect Keto Peanut Butter Cookies if youโre interested in the discussion about them. ๐
Also, if you want to stock up on their keto bars, you can get $50 off 4 boxes ๐ซ by using this Multi-Pack deal + adding my discount code LOWCARBTRAVELER at checkout. Thatโs a GREAT deal! xo




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Thank you for being real! I appreciated it!
You my dear are the BEST!!!!!!!!!!!!
When businesses donโt take a public stance against anti-black racism, it is a conscious decision to not publicly show support for black lives simply being equal to others. You certainly donโt have to give a public accounting of all your actions or show rage. But throughout history, black lives have been devalued, and white silence has perpetuated that. A few words just condemning racism go a long way to letting your readers know where you stand. As a black reader, thatโs important for me to know.
Hi Lauren ๐
I am absolutely 100% against racism.
I wish we all knew each other better. I do but I donโt. Itโs nice to be a part of an amazing community online where none of the โdetailsโ matter in our daily conversations or play into our likability factor with each other. Especially where some of those do affect us in person or locally or within our families etc.
Examples include age, gender, race, ethnicity, class, religion, sexual orientation, location, just to name a few. Things we donโt know about each other also include criminal history, parents or not, parenting styles, single or married, addiction issues โ the list could go on and on.
I love that we are a diverse community with a common goal, and that topic and those goals bring us all together โ regardless of every other detail that makes us who we are.
The HARDEST conversation Iโve had this past week was with my friend Natalie โ a friend of over 10 years. Weโve hung out in person plenty over those years, her face crosses my screen plenty online too of course, but this week when her face crossed my screenโฆ I saw her as a black woman. I sat there, feeling stunned โ floored actually, and sad, along with a rise of mixed emotions I couldnโt really explain. It was a photo of her crying, for reference, which made me cry. Not that I havenโt seen her pain or tears before, over other hard things โ but this was different. So I called her. I confessed Iโd never seen her as a black woman. โDo you want me to?โ I asked her to explain (from her perspective) what โI see youโ means โ to her. I asked her if it was bad or wrong that Iโd never acknowledged her skin color, only her friendship. It was a hard conversation, raw, but good โ and one Iโm still processing.
I live in Tennessee by the way, so Iโm no stranger to the topic of racism.
If youโd like to have more conversation on any of this, you are welcome to email me or message me privately anytime. You have my email address, or you can message me through my Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/lowcarbtraveler (those messages come straight to me). Iโm open to deeper discussions about it.
If youโd like to get to know me better first, the photos on my personal profile at Facebook are public: https://www.facebook.com/lynnterry/photos_of Youโll discover there that my son is not white.
When a business peer & friend released her new product last year, I got behind it fully and partnered with her on the marketing campaign โ not because she was black, not because she was a woman, but because it was a GREAT product that I felt very passionate about.
Thereโs so much more we could discuss, but I feel like this is not the right platform or place for that conversation โ and that pretty much everything I said after the first sentence was totally irrelevant and a complete mess of thoughts, not unlike my original post. So Iโll end where I started:
Yes, I am absolutely 100% against racism.
Lynn
Hi Lynn, Iโm glad to know that you are an anti-racist and support black lives. It really wasnโt clear.
Oh my gosh, Lauren โ nothing like writing 2000 words and not making the most important point, hey? My specialty it seems. ๐ I absolutely value and support black lives.
Thank you for asking for clarification. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings on the topic. Thank you for letting me know it was important to you โ and for accepting and acknowledging my response.
~Lynn
Dear Lynn: I also believe in what you wrote and I have up and downs on what I should say or how I should feelโฆ.but I agree it should not be splattered on the internet to engage more fuel on the fireโฆ.sometimes our feelings are best shared with ourselves as certain feelings sometimes (unbeknown to us) will enrage another individualโฆ.so Peanut butter cookies are a good Idea, except I thought they were a little priceyโฆ..so my favorite home made cookies is 4 ingredients:
1 cup almond flour
3 tablespoons softened butter
3 tablespoons confectioners sugar
1/8 tsp salt
1/2 teaspoon vanilla
350 oven
put on parchment paper , mix all ingredients small balls, flatten with fork 1/4โณ thick 8 to 10 minutes light golden brown cool 10 minutes on baking sheet as it is a shortbread cookie and very good. I use the confectioners sugar as it is not much, but you can substitute,
I am as I have written before in a maintaining position and been following you since 2014.
Enjoy these cookies best one I have ever tasted, I have to hide them from my husband as he likes him better than the sugar cookies that i make for him.
Hugs to you,
Bonnie
If saying that black people shouldnโt be unjustly killed by the police enrages an individual, maybe the goal shouldnโt be to make this a welcoming place for that individual. By not saying anything, it is throwing fuel on the fire of injustice. Silence only seems neutral if youโre okay with the status quo of systemic racism.
I believe we ALL feel that way, Lauren: black people should not be unjustly killed by the police. I cant imagine anyone doesnโt feel that way.
What Iโve seen personally, and what perhaps Bonnie is referring to (I can only assume, which I donโt like to do), are the more general statements or thoughts that have resulted in unraveling attacks.
As just one example, Target posted their โ$10 million commitmentโ on Instagram and had over 300 comments in the first 30 minutes alone โ not all positive, of course.
Maybe that was a bad example. But even a seemingly innocent / unrelated self-help graphic on a personal account blew up in my content stream โ because people assigned relevancy to it.
This is a HARD topic and tension is running HIGH, understandably so of course.
I simply wanted to express that this is hard, to acknowledge that it IS happening, and also that Iโd like to keep this space โon topicโ for us to continue to be a positive and accepting community working on common goals together.
There are other (much better) sources, platforms and resources for those discussions and for learning โ which is where I am reading and listening myself.
xo ~ Lynn
Thank you Lynn, your assumption was correct, try my shortbread cookiesโฆ.deliciousโฆ
Hugs,
Bonnie
Thank you for sharing. I have been doing a lot of reflecting, listening, watching and reading. I am learning what it means to be anti-racist and it is important to me to understand what that means and how I can and should show up. I share so many of the same feelings and thoughts as you a have shared here and so appreciate you being authentic.