When I started the Low Carb Diet last April, I had a strong incentive to lose weight.
Two, actually. I wanted to put the past behind me (which was weighing on me, literally, in the form of pounds), and I wanted to move on with my future.
At the time, that included a big secret: I was planning to get married in the Fall.
We have since canceled the arrangements and ultimately ended the relationship altogether.
To be fair, he never actually proposed to me. It was more a “piss or get off the pot” kind of thing where I finally decided we should just do it and so we started discussing how we would go about it. To the point of choosing a date and making the reservations at a beautiful little spot in Middle TN that specializes in elegant elopements.
That’s enough to inspire most any woman to lose a few pounds. But for me, it was quite the big deal. Because while I’ve been married before (more than 12 years ago)… I’ve never actually had a wedding. Or even so much as tried on a wedding dress. The idea of looking fabulous my one and only time in one was a strong motivation to lose weight. If I was going to wear a wedding dress, ever, I wanted to totally rock it! 😉
I was never that girl with the childhood fantasy of a big white dress and a huge fairytale wedding. In fact, I never expected to consider marriage again. Not that I’m against marriage OR men, just that I didn’t see it in my future, or actively pursue that type of relationship. I have a great life, really enjoy my lifestyle, and hey – if you can’t meet someone cool in 12 years that fits in with what you have… it just may not be in the cards for you. 😛
But there I was. For a few short months anyway.
And if I was going to do it, I wanted to look absolutely stunning doing it.
I tell you all of this, personal as it is, to open up a discussion about our reason WHY when it comes to our weight loss goals. I believe our WHY is directly related to our success with weight loss.
I know for me, ever since things fell apart at the end of last summer, I have been seriously yo-yo’ing on the Low Carb Diet. I even took a deliberate break from it around the end of the year, along with everything else in my life, to regroup a bit. Mostly to get my bearings, and redefine my “WHY” on all of my goals.
I recall going through this same thing after my divorce 12 years ago. And again when my son moved out on his own almost two years ago. Life is constantly changing, and we have to adjust our goals – and our vision of the future – right along with it.
I’ve found over the years, in both my personal life and my business, having a strong reason – a WHY – is what really drives me. Without it, the motivation is just not there. Anytime I come up with something I want to do, I ask myself “why?” and I get that reason firmly in my mind. A vision of the end result is what gets me through the individual days, and sometimes the hours, that it takes to get where I want to be.
I now have a new WHY.
Since my late 20’s I have been looking forward to the decade of my 40’s. I’ve known all along where I want to be, how I want to be and WHO I want to be. And I have worked hard over the last ~10 years to get there.
There are a lot of reasons my 40’s appeal to me. My children will be raised, my business successful, and it will be a time in my life with more freedoms and more new things in life to explore outside of business start-up & single parenting. Like traveling, writing books, great friends (and having time to spend with those friends -lol).
And just like that stupid wedding dress, I want to totally ROCK my 40’s! 😉
I don’t want to be skinny. I want to look awesome. I want to be healthy, in shape, glowing, and have the arms to pull off a gorgeous sleeveless dress. I want to be the best possible version of myself, inside and out.
What Drives YOUR Weight Loss Goals?
I’d be curious to know what motivates you, and whether you have a strong reason or incentive to lose weight and get in shape? Is it a vision that keeps you on track, or are you in a “lack of vision” phase (like I’ve been lately) and struggling to stay on track?
This is a good time for us to reevaluate and consider our reasons. I have to tell you, having you alongside me on this journey has been a BIG motivator, even when my vision was unclear. Thank you for being there along the way. I love sharing the ups & downs, low carb recipes & tips, and I love our candid weight loss discussions!
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